View Full Version : What is the real meaning of friendship?
Okie Medicvet
05-17-2009, 03:12 AM
I mean seriously, what does it all entail to be considered a friend to someone. And does the friendship have to be reciprocatd to be geniune? Or is it like love, something you just have to give no matter what? In today's modern world with myspace and facebook and all that, you can have friends you have never met. Heck, that can happen on the internet just about anyplace that people gather to talk, and create forums for others to gather in and discuss and debate everything from life, the universe, to everything.
What constitutes afriendship? Is it being around the person a lot and being companions working with you. Having someone oneyou can rely on and trust? And do you have to actually meet someone in person to have them be a friend? Or are 'online friendships' just a valuable as face to face ones, but in a different way?
Who here has friends they know very well online and wouldn't mind hooking up with and partying with? Or even sitting down and chewing the fat together and finding out how much one has in common...
So leaving out the cliches plreas as much as possible, what is it that determines if someone is your friend or not?
Bastard
05-17-2009, 08:37 AM
I mean seriously, what does it all entail to be considered a friend to someone. And does the friendship have to be reciprocatd to be geniune? Or is it like love, something you just have to give no matter what? In today's modern world with myspace and facebook and all that, you can have friends you have never met. Heck, that can happen on the internet just about anyplace that people gather to talk, and create forums for others to gather in and discuss and debate everything from life, the universe, to everything.
What constitutes afriendship? Is it being around the person a lot and being companions working with you. Having someone oneyou can rely on and trust? And do you have to actually meet someone in person to have them be a friend? Or are 'online friendships' just a valuable as face to face ones, but in a different way?
Who here has friends they know very well online and wouldn't mind hooking up with and partying with? Or even sitting down and chewing the fat together and finding out how much one has in common...
So leaving out the cliches plreas as much as possible, what is it that determines if someone is your friend or not?
Sometimes, I have an urge to beat you to death with a brick. A true friend would help me chop up your bloated corpse and help bury it.
Pax Britannia
05-17-2009, 08:39 AM
I gotta go with bastard on this one. A true friend is the person you call to help bury the body.
Claydon
05-17-2009, 01:32 PM
The meaning of a friend to me, is someone whom I consider to be family because the reletionship is that close.
Insomniac
05-17-2009, 01:42 PM
A friend to me is someone who I don't have to work at a relationship with. We just "are" and can hang out and talk about anything without worry of how it'll affect the other one.
CunningRunt
05-17-2009, 06:21 PM
This is too fucking deep.
Pax Britannia
05-17-2009, 06:23 PM
A friend to me is someone who I don't have to work at a relationship with. We just "are" and can hang out and talk about anything without worry of how it'll affect the other one.
There are no 'awkward silences' when you are with your friends. Thats how comfortable you are in each others company.
I think Whodini said it best
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slore
05-17-2009, 06:40 PM
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SammyKC
05-17-2009, 06:58 PM
Im just in on this. A real friend...doesnt ask any questions. Doesnt judge. Just holds your hair back while you puke. And then completely fucking destroys you for being a girl. Lol. Laughing.
slore
05-17-2009, 06:59 PM
A real friend gives you a reacharound without having to ask for it.
scraty55
05-19-2009, 12:24 AM
"a true friend stabs you in the front" - Oscar Wilde
Okie Medicvet
05-20-2009, 05:51 AM
I think yeah it does kinda boil down to who you can pick boogers in front of and know it doesn't make one bit of difference. Feeling comfortable just being without awkward silences.
So then I know this is a bit different from the original query, but still have to say it begs the question..
what is the difference then between friendship and love?
Archetype
05-20-2009, 12:50 PM
Romantic love or love in general?
Okie Medicvet
05-20-2009, 07:12 PM
hmm..had to ponder this one for a while and then had to hit google to see if there was a good definition that would fit..
you know this is where the greeks got it down because they have different words for the different kinds of love, they have a word for spiritual love, agape, and one for romantic love, eros..
... they have two other words for it too, which I didn't know until now, Storge and Philia, the former for love between family members, and the latter from what I understand a kind of kinsmanship or social responsibilit toward another.
I think a real friendship has to have some elements of all but eros, since a deep friendship can be almost spiritual in it's nature, and the kinship is there, but also a closer bonding than even family members can have with one another..but there are parts of the definition that doesn't fit with at least the philia one since that is more a feeling of social responsibilty towards people than a love of a friend.
medlar
05-22-2009, 12:23 PM
You can think of them as contacts who will do as much as you do for them.
n00blewooble
06-27-2009, 10:12 AM
"a true friend stabs you in the front" - Oscar Wilde
absolutely true, if you have a real friend then they'll tell you up front about it not just go behind your back or not tell you, they're not afraid of your reaction cus they know you so well that they know what your reaction'll be