Why do so many marriages fail?

[Owen the Plain]

Arranged marriages happen typically in what we would consider to be extremely closed and regimented societies. Societies so regimented and different than ours in values along with culture I don't think you can make an even comparison.

As far as why marriages fail my opinion is that when you look at the past 60 years or so, in the lifetime of our parents or grandparents, there has been a huge change in the way men and women socialize. Previous generations men and women wouldn't even dream of socializing the way they do today. As a result, our options aren't just more obvious, but much easier to pursue. In other words, marriages "fail" because its just so damn easy to cheat in this day and age.

If you want to invest the time check out this link that talks about marriage on various levels. Really interesting

http://www.thisamericanlife.org/Radi...px?episode=261

[ed92]

been married 3 years myself, and I spend a TON of time worrying about this shit, probably not productive, but my take is this:

for a marriage to last, the two people in the relationship must refuse to accept failure of the relationship. i think every marriage has periods of time where you're thinking, "how the fuck am i going to spend another year with this person."

usually, those periods pass on their own and you get back to enjoying the marriage.

sometimes, those periods don't pass on their own, that's where some people say, "fuck it, let's get divorced and move on" and others either work to fix the issues, or accept the flaws in the relationship. (I make no judgment about the people who decide they want out of the marriage and end up divorced. I agree that for a lot people a good divorce is 1,000 times better for everyone involved than a bad marriage.)

i just think there are some cases on the margin where in similar situations, some people push through and are happy, and others get divorced (they also may be happier). i guess a third group pushes through and remains unhappy (i guess that's still a failed marriage).

[desert scorpion]

Not enough women giving head?

[Spanky]

Only idiots get married.

[winkeraw]

Originally Posted by wonderllama

I think with every generation (no, I'm not about to repeat the start of Buffy) humans become more and more self-centred, more completely taken with their own self-importance and how they deserve everything for nothing etc.

So, someone comes along and you get married to them...and then...you have to start thinking about someone else for a change. No more all about YOU, you have a significant other who deserves equal time and respect...or maybe there are kids as well, that's a time consumer right there...

Suddenly, the world isn't all about YOU...

That is why so many marriages fail. As each year passes, a growing percentage of the population is taking the 'everyone for themselves' theory and by default are destined to have screwed up marriages.

It's that or the anal thing from above.

Selfishness is a key reason for divorce.

[kulashaker]

being a second time married person...marriages end because of dishonesty. To each other and ourselves. Deal with the hard truths of life and ya have a real shot and it working out.

[arod2105]

You see it happen alot. Times have change. In the past it was all about courtship and getting blessings from the families for couples to get married. Now you see alot of people get married and rush into it, not thinking things through.

[kulashaker]

And not having enough life experience to know that they aren't ready to handle to responsibility. It's easy to have fun and enjoy the good times but it's when things get hard that things fall apart they don't have to tools to keep it all together.

[kroovy]

because you cant turn a ho into a house wife

[arod2105]

Realtionships are tough, and there are gonna be good days and there will be bad days. It is what you do as a couple on those bad days that will shape the realtionship and help you get through those tough times. These days, you don't see alot of couples fight to save their marriages.

[kulashaker]

They don't know that sometimes you have to fight...everyone think.."oh no we are fighting...we must be failing" trick is to to just talk and not lie!

[gilliath]

Not enough BJ's